How To Help Your Athlete Crush Tryouts—Without Crushing Their Confidence
It starts with a nervous ride to the field.
Your athlete is quiet in the passenger seat. You can see the tension in their jaw, the way they keep checking their bag, their gear, the clock.
Tryouts start in 30 minutes.
You want to say something encouraging—but you’re not sure what won’t come off as pressure.
You want to help them succeed—but you’re not sure how much involvement is too much.
You want them to make the team—but you know what it might do to their confidence if they don’t.
Welcome to tryout season: one of the most emotionally charged moments in youth sports—not just for athletes, but for parents too.
The good news?
With the right approach, you can help your athlete go into tryouts with clarity, confidence, and composure.
Here are six practical strategies to help your athlete crush tryouts—without crushing their confidence.
1. Focus on Effort and Attitude—Not Just the Outcome
When parents focus solely on “making the team,” athletes start to tie their self-worth to a result they don’t fully control. That creates pressure—and pressure often leads to underperformance.
What To Do
Shift your language to effort, energy, and attitude.
Say things like:
🗣️ “I love how hard you’ve been working to prepare.”
🗣️ “Bring great energy today—coaches notice that.”
Coaches look for coachability, resilience, and hustle just as much as raw skill.
2. Be a Steady Voice, Not an Extra Coach
It’s tempting to give last-minute advice. “Hustle hard.” “Don’t miss your layups.” “Make sure the coach sees you.”
But in those final minutes, athletes don’t need extra voices in their head.
They need calm, focus, and trust in their training.
What To Do
Resist the urge to coach from the sidelines or over-analyze afterward. Instead, say:
🗣️ “Go be you. You’ve put in the work—now go enjoy it.”
Your role isn’t to perfect their performance. It’s to protect their mindset.
3. Embrace the Challenge
Tryouts are meant to be tough. That’s the point—they’re a chance to rise, not relax. And as a parent, your job isn’t to make the road easier—it’s to remind your athlete they’re ready for the climb.
Athletes often feel pressure during tryouts because the stakes feel high. Instead of trying to eliminate that pressure, help your athlete reframe it as a challenge to rise to—not something to fear.
What To Do
You might say:
🗣️ “This is your shot to compete, to grow, to show what you’ve been working on. Lean into it. Don’t hold back.”
Remind them: being challenged is how athletes get better. Whether they’re going up against older players, a new coach, or a team they’ve never made before, every tryout is a growth opportunity.
Bonus: When parents model this mindset themselves—by not overreacting, overcoaching, or obsessing over the outcome—it gives athletes permission to play freely and confidently.
4. Reflect After Tryouts—Don’t Ruminate
After tryouts, your athlete might be buzzing with excitement… or full of doubt.
Instead of diving into a breakdown of what went wrong (or obsessing over whether they made the team), help them reflect constructively.
What To Do
Ask open questions like:
🗣️ “What part felt good today?”
🗣️ “Was there anything you’d do differently next time?”
🗣️ “What did you learn about yourself?”
Reflection builds growth. Rumination builds anxiety.
5. Celebrate the Courage It Takes Just to Show Up
Trying out for a team means putting yourself in a vulnerable position. There’s risk. Rejection. Uncertainty.
That takes guts—especially for young athletes who are still forming their identity.
What to do:
Acknowledge the bravery of trying, not just the success of making it.
🗣️ “I’m proud of you for going for it—that takes real courage.”
This reinforces that their value doesn’t come from a roster—it comes from who they are.
6. Respond with Support—No Matter the Outcome
Tryouts can go either way.
If they make the team:
Celebrate their effort, not just the win:
🗣️ “Your work really showed out there—way to stay focused and prepared.”
Keep them grounded:
🗣️ “Now it’s time to keep building. This is just step one.”
If they don’t make it:
Be there emotionally:
🗣️ “It’s okay to be upset. That means it mattered to you.”
Offer perspective and hope:
🗣️ “This isn’t the end. It’s just a step in your journey. Let’s figure out what’s next.”
Losses can become powerful growth moments if you provide the right support to your athlete.
Final Thoughts: Show Up the Way They Need—Not Just the Way You Want
As a parent, you’re into tryouts just as much as your athlete. You’ve invested your time, money, and emotions. You want them to succeed.
But remember—your presence, your words, your energy, that’s what your child will carry with them long after the team list is posted.
When in doubt, be steady. Be the safe place. Be the support.
That’s what builds confidence.
And that’s what builds next level athletes.
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Or they didn’t make it and you’re not sure what to say or do next.
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